In a recent opinion, California’s Fourth District Court of Appeals explained that when a couple has children and later marries, the marriage nullifies a child support order entered prior to it, even if they later divorce. Mark Wilson and Tamara Bodine were not married when their son was born in…
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California Court Says Father Abandoned Children, Despite Continuing to Pay Support – In re C.C.
The Court of Appeals for California’s Fourth District recently explained in In re C.C. that a parent can be found to have abandoned his or her children for custody purposes, even if the parent continues to pay child support.Charles and Misty were married in Pennsylvania in April 2001, less than…
Best Divorce Strategies – Listen, Seek to understand, Focus on the future, Heal
Conflict in the context of divorce can be emotionally and financially debilitating. Family court judges commonly make decisions and orders based on how the law applies to what has already transpired between the parties, to the past. And this approach keeps the spouses in a conflict trap where they are…
California Divorce Attorney Undermines Couple’s Efforts to Reach Agreement – Just Say No To Litigation
Sometimes, quite often in fact, the flames of conflict in divorce cases are fanned by attorneys who have more to gain from conflict than from resolution. Against my better judgment, I recently accepted a litigation case with the hope that perhaps I could help facilitate a negotiated settlement. It appeared…
Gray Divorce in California
Marian, 57, and her husband for nearly 30 years, John, had buried their differences over money, child-rearing and more. But when the last of their two children was finishing high school, the differences became too glaring to ignore. Increasingly, they had little to talk about, and when they did, it…
Same Gender Marriage: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly – President Obama, North Carolina, and Politics
The people of North Carolina voted this week to amend their constitution to ban same-sex marriage. And the ban won with a surprisingly strong 61 to 39 percent, undermining North Carolina’s image as a modern, progressive state. Very bad! But, on a brighter note, the President of the United States,…
Happy Outcomes in California Mediated Divorce
At my favorite local restaurant last weekend I recognized a former divorce mediation client. She did not recognize me as I was dressed in early 19th century garb for a historical event. As I approached her table to say hello, I saw that she was with her former husband, also…
Childhood Obesity in California Custody & Vistation Disputes
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately 17%, or about 12.5 million, of the nation’s children and teens are obese. Since 1980, according to CDC statistics, obesity rates have nearly tripled. Should parents of extremely obese children lose custody for not controlling their kids’ weight? An article…
California’s Child Custody and Relocation Laws Make it Possible for Parents to Move Away With Their Children.
Since Americans both divorce and move in significant numbers it is no surprise that move-away and relocation issues between divorced parents arise frequently. The consequences of a move-away case can profoundly impact both the parents and their children and the cases are far more conflicted than the typical high-conflict child…
How to Avoid Bias in California Family Courts
Given the high divorce rate in this country, just about all of us have been impacted in some way by divorce and custody/support matters. Perhaps it was our own family or parents or our own divorce, or simply a very close friend or family member. And with few exceptions, a…